Consent is a word you may have heard when talking about sex and relationships. It means that someone is giving a clear yes and informed permission to engage in a sexual act with another person.
Consent is important. It’s about how we communicate and check each other’s feelings, and it helps us only do things that are comfortable for us and for the other person. If someone asks for your consent that is a good thing – be confident and say how you feel. If you’re asking for someone else’s consent, always respect their answer if they say ‘no’. Remember that ‘no’ means ‘no’; don’t try to change their opinion!
Consent is something that you need to ask for every time you have any kind of sexual activity. Sex without consent is sexual abuse or rape.
Someone who is silent just smiles or sounds unsure and like they’re trying to please you is not giving their consent. If someone agrees to sex because they’re under pressure threat or violence, or under the influence of alcohol – they haven’t given consent freely.
If you haven’t given your consent and have experienced sexual harassment or sexual violence including rape, this isn’t your fault. It doesn’t matter whether you were alone with someone, or out at night, and it makes no difference what you were wearing. You are not to blame. Call the Rape Crisis Centre at 021 447 9762 to get the help and support you need. There is also a WhatsApp support line available at 083 222 516